watching you go

This little girl, she has no idea why everyone is crying. She is spreading a blanket on the ground, crawling on her hands and knees, making room for her tea party, and she is whispering

because that’s what her mother told her to do.

There is something so essential about this way to die. It’s the essence of what a life is, maybe. Or what death ought to be. Because if you must die—and we all must—shouldn’t it be this way? Surrounded by the people you spent your life with, your memories with. This is your enormous family all thinking of you as a child, as a man, as a husband, as a brother. All thinking of you at your alivest.

And there is nothing we can do. So

we will sit and we will wait and we will fill our hearts
with so much love that we can only feel grief while we watch your soul slip out of your body. There is nothing we can do but love you,
so we will watch you die.

We will breathe shallow breaths, saving some for you. We watch you go.

With every labored breath, every yellow touch, every slow, slow movement, we watch you go.
We all knew this would happen.
You are not ready. We are not ready.

In one moment, there will be all of us, breathing in and out,
and in the next there will be one less.

These people you leave behind, these pieces—your porch, your garden, your children, your shirts and pants and cologne and shampoo—will be your calling card, your existence, long after you have left.

And when the rest of our lives happen, we will watch for you.

This little girl, she will probably remember you the least. She will remember this day as the one where everyone cried while she begged them to play make believe.

-- For Kalapi Mama